If you can’t attend someone’s wedding it’s best to let them know as soon as you can. They probably were hoping to see you there and celebrate their big wedding day with you.
So sending a note or message to apologize for and explain why it is you can’t make their wedding is important.
But it can be difficult to know what to say. How do you sound sincere and genuine?
You want to express your sadness about missing the wedding and make sure apologize fully. Say how it was unintended and that you will do everything you can to make it up to them.
Use these example messages to say sorry for not attending a wedding if you are having a hard time deciding what to say it write in an apology note.
Messages if you Can’t Attend a Wedding
1.) I’m really sorry I can’t make it to your wedding. I hope you understand and I know you will have a wonderful day
2.) Congratulations! I feel so bad that I’m not able to make your wedding but I hope you know I wouldn’t miss it unless it was something very important. I’ll be with you in spirit
3.) I’m so sorry to let you down but I can’t make it to your wedding. Something urgent has just come up and there’s no way I can get out of it. My apologies and wishing you a truly special day
4.) Just letting you know I’m not going to be able to make your wedding. I had already made plans for the day and I just can’t change them I’m afraid. Sending my best wishes for a wonderful day
5.) I couldn’t have been more excited about your wedding but I’m sad to say I’m going to have to let you down. We’ve had a family emergency and I’m needed with my loved ones. I’ll make it up to you though, I promise. Have a great day
6.) I’m so disappointed I’m not going to be at your wedding. I’m hoping my awesome wedding gift will help make up for it!
7.) I really hope you can enjoy your wedding even without me there! Only kiddin’. Really wish I could be there and I’m sure it’ll be an amazing day
8.) Thank you for inviting me to your wedding but I’m sadly unable to come. You deserve a wonderful day though, I hope it’s everything you dreamed of and more
9.) I’m super disappointed that I’d already made plans for the day of your wedding. I can’t wait to see the photos though! Congratulations
10.) I may not be with you in person but I will be with you in spirit! Congratulations and enjoy your special day
READ MORE: Belated and Late Wedding Wishes and Messages
Sorry Messages for Missing a Wedding
11.) I’m really sorry I couldn’t make your wedding. I know it’s a poor excuse but I didn’t have any choice but to cover for someone at work. I hope you had a lovely day and can forgive me
12.) I’ve been sick recently and I just didn’t have the strength to make your wedding. I hope you will forgive me for missing your wedding. Sending all my love and congratulations
13.) You probably won’t believe me but on the way to your wedding my car had engine problems. It just stopped dead and by the time a recovery truck had got to me your wedding was over. I’m really sorry
14.) I had my dress on and was ready to go when my little girl suddenly became unwell. She’s alright again now but I hope you can understand why I missed your wedding
15.) I promise I’ll make it up to you for missing your wedding! I just got overwhelmed by everything. Hoping you enjoyed a dream day
16.) I don’t have any excuse for not being at your wedding. This is just a note I say how sorry I am I missed it and hope you can find it in you to forgive me
17.) It’s a poor excuse but my train was delayed and by the time I got in to tune it was too late. I’m very disappointed I couldn’t make it and send my apologies
18.) Sending my warmest apologies for not attending your wedding. Work just got on top of me and I couldn’t find the time to get away. I hope it was a fantastic day though
19.) I’m sure your wedding was amazing and I’m really sorry didn’t make it. Wishing you a happy future together
20.) Work decided I had to finish a project which made me so late. I really did want to be at your wedding and it wasn’t for want of trying, but it just wasn’t to be. I’m really sorry
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Apology Notes for Not Attending a Wedding
21.) This letter will hopefully let you know just how sorry and sad I was to have missed your wedding. Life sometimes throws up roadblocks and unexpected events and that the case. I’ll do whatever I can to make it up to you. My biggest apologies
22.) I haven’t been able to get in touch so I hope this text message reaches you. I’m deeply sorry for missing the wedding and hope it was a spectacular day for you and the whole family
23.) This is just a quick note to say how sorry I am for missing the wedding. My sincerest and deepest apologies
24.) I am really sorry I didn’t let you know I wouldn’t be attending your wedding. I’ve just been so busy it completed slipped my mind to tell you. I’m so sorry!
25.) I’m devastated I missed your wedding. It was going to be amazing and I know how excited you were. Like the clumsy fool I am I managed to trip over and break my leg in the day! So I spent your wedding in hospital getting a cast! I’ll make it up to you though and hopefully you’ll come over and tell me all the details of the big day! Apologies again
26.) I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me for not attending your wedding. I’m genuinely very sorry
27.) Having to miss your wedding was a real blow but I hope you understand that I really didn’t have a choice. I’m so sad about it and really, really sorry
28.) Belated wedding wishes! Please accept my apology for not being there on the big day. I hope you have a wonderful life together
29.) I’m such a fool – I missed your wedding. You know how useless I am when it comes to planning and I just got the days mixed up. Really sorry!
30.) My sincerest apologies for not being with you on your wedding day. I won’t bother you with stupid excuses – I messed up and that’s all there is to it. I hope you will forgive me as I’m really, deeply sorry
31.) Having to miss your wedding was so hard but I really didn’t have a choice. If I can I will make it up to you and I hope you weren’t too upset
Regardless of whether you had a really good reason it’s still important to reach out and let the bride or groom know why you weren’t or won’t be at their wedding.
So hopefully these notes and messages to say you’re sorry will show the happy couple just how upset you were and that you wanted to be there but just couldn’t make their wedding.